As I’ve mentioned a few times before, I live in Alabama. With the exception of time I’ve spent in Virginia and Maine, I’ve lived here for my entire life. As I’ve lived and breathed, I’ve grown. There are things that I used to do that I don’t do anymore. There are things that I used to say that I don’t say anymore.
And, there are things I used to believe that I don’t believe anymore.
On February 9, 2015, a federal judge ordered the State of Alabama to allow same-sex marriage in all of its counties. This set forth a lot of celebration as well as a lot of consternation. For some reason, the state government feels the need to tell people who should marry who. They don’t want the federal government to intervene at all…unless a hurricane hits; then, they’ll take all the money they can get – and complain the whole time about getting it. And, a federal judge intervened only because Chief Justice Roy Moore decided to get a stick up his ass again. This was the same judge who had a hissy fit about not being allowed to have the Ten Commandments posted in the Alabama Judiciary Building – blatantly disobeying a federal order to take it down. Now, he’s having a hissy fit about gay and lesbian Alabamians getting married. To that, I have to say this to Judge Moore and anyone who agrees with him:
Grow. The Fuck. Up.
What did these people ever do to you? What crime did they commit except for the one of existing? Why is allowing them to get married such a bad thing? What will their getting married do to you? Are you gonna all of a sudden go out and divorce your spouse and marry someone of the same sex? Probably not. So, again…how does this affect you?
Marriage – if done correctly – is a wonderful institution. It’s one without bars or padded rooms, but that goes without saying (S/N: if that’s your thing, then more power to you). It’s one that should be entered into by anyone who desires to do so: be they straight, gay, lesbian, whatever. Denying people the ability to experience this is not only unfair, it’s also a federal crime. You assholes.
The comedian Kinky Friedman gave a wonderful quote to the Associated Press when asked how he feels about gay marriage. He said, “I support gay marriage. I believe they have the right to be as miserable as the rest of us.” I’m not entirely certain about the miserable part (just partly), but I do agree that they shouldn’t be denied the ability to experience marriage just because they either don’t poke it in the same hole as you or use different equipment to poke it in the same hole as you do. I freely admit that was crass, but so is the state’s decision.
Whenever I think this state can’t disappoint me any further than it already has (the state government’s inaction in regards to UAB being told to shut down three of its athletic programs just because Mike Epsy, Finis St. John IV, and Paul Bryant, Jr. said so weighs heavy on me), they pull more stupidity like this. At this point, the state will never become a part of the 21st century, and that depresses me. It’ll get better one day, but I don’t know if I’ll be around to see it happen.
There is nothing worse than wasted potential, and the state of Alabama is wasting theirs writ large.